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I had a hard time deciding on what to focus on for show and tell Tuesday with Momfessionals about being on the struggle bus. I have lots of struggles as a mom, and I actually like sharing about them so God can turn my brutal honesty into something helpful. Hopefully.

 

I really thought about sharing how tough things were when my daughter had acid reflux, or maybe handling sibling rivalry …I mean, there are so many things to pick from! 😁 In the end, I decided to go with something that is the root of all sorts of problems in our little family. So today I’m writing about sleep and nap times! Oh, yay.

 

 

So, here’s my confession: I’m really bad at getting my kids to sleep. I always had a hard time with it, especially when they were babies because  I couldn’t explain to them why I had to leave them at night and I felt like they thought I was abandoning them. Thanks, mom guilt.

My firstborn was the biggest struggle. I got into the bad habit of rocking him to sleep, something that continued until he was 18 months! Yikes! I remember one night when he was about six months old, as I was getting ready to lay down in my own bed at about 10 PM, Kai started crying, and I burst into tears. My husband was alarmed, but I managed to explain through my tears that I was just so exhausted. There’s nothing like feeling controlled by your kids’ sleep habits as their personal lovie. So the end of that story is that at 18 months Ry and I sleep trained him together. Praise the sweet Lord! I wrote about my experience with that here.

But moving right along to naps–this is where I’m struggling the most in life as a mom right now. Seriously. Naps.

 

too tired to go on

 

My four-year-old has grown out of his afternoon nap, so you would think that makes life simpler. But actually, we’re in this weird no-man’s-land where he is still not getting enough sleep. All he needs is to take a 20-minute nap every day…but he doesn’t have the talent that I have for doing that. We tried moving his bedtime to 20 minutes earlier than normal, but he just started waking up earlier in the morning.

The truth is, when he’s not getting enough sleep, he turns into someone else. A ridiculous someone else. Someone who just. can’t. handle. it. Well, I’ve been there before, buddy, and it’s no fun.

 

my baby sleeping in a hotel bed

My one-year-old, Sylvie, just started to outgrow her quick morning nap. One would also think this makes things simpler. But not so much. If I can get her through to 12:30, she falls asleep instantly but then wakes up from her nap AN HOUR  early. And not enough sleep for her during the day often means not enough sleep at night either. (It’s a horrifying cycle.) She added teething to the mix, and now I really don’t know what to expect at any given time.

The biggest issue that comes from their changing sleep patterns is that it affects their moods. The second issue is that it affects my very well-planned-out day. I don’t know on any given day what the kids’ nap and quiet time schedule are going to look like. If Sylvie wakes up early, Kai’s quiet time is out the window because he hears her up and I don’t feel like I can tell him she can be out of her room but he can’t. Some days, everyone is moody and overtired.

Have you been there? Are you there right now?

All I can tell myself is that someday it will pass, and these struggles with littler ones will turn into struggles with older kids, and then I will long for the days when my biggest problem as a parent was naptime. So, here I am, trying to get a little perspective and to treasure these days and even the sleeplessness that goes with them. But even so, the struggle IS real.

I promise I’m not usually one to complain, especially without doing something constructive with the complaining…but today we’re gabbing about our struggles, so there you have it. My kids are both in nap time transitions and I sort of want to just sit here and cry dramatically while eating chocolate.

Thanks for listening…so, how do you get through naptime transitions? What is your biggest struggle right now?

Linking up with Show and Tell Tuesday and Tuesday Talk

9 comments on “The Struggle is Real

  • Oh man, I just typed a looooong comment and it all got erased because it thought my name was spammy. Boo! Anyway! Just wanted to chime in that sleep struggles are real. Both of our daughters are in transitions right now. Sadie is going from two naps a day to one, and Hadley is transitioning out of naps altogether. It makes planning the day rather challenging, that’s for sure!
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    • Erica, thanks so much for commenting! 🙂 I literally got thousands of spam comments, and the solution I installed may have overdone it in protecting my site. But it’s good to know I’m not alone with napping issues. Seems like there’s always another hurdle around the corner…yikes!

  • Oh, I am with thee!! My kids morph into completely different humans when they have not had enough sleep. My oldest doesn’t nap and that’s okay, but then he fights bedtime sometimes and I’m like, you’re fine now but when morning comes you’re a bear to get awake and ready! And my youngest still takes a good long nap at daycare. Which is great but then getting him to sleep at night is often a huge challenge. After about the 4th time he gets out of bed and I’m trying not to break down, I just pray for wisdom and patience and beg God for help because I don’t know what to do! So, long story short, it’s comforting knowing you’re not alone! I keep telling myself I’ll miss this one day. The days are long but the years are short!
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    • YES I completely feel your pain. Figuring out that balance between kids getting enough sleep at naptime and being able to go to bed at a good time is tough! We have to tweak it a lot, especially as naptime transitions happen. I’m right there with you praying for wisdom and patience!

  • Struggles are real. I wrote a post about them a few weeks ago. Once you get through this stage, you will have a small window of time to rest before the teen years. Enjoy the relaxation while you can. 😀

  • Naptimes can be so hard!! Somehow we lucked out with night sleeping with all 3 kids, they never had any problems! But naps, totally different story! My 4yr stopped taking them when she was 2!!! I tried and tried but it was taking over an hour to get her down then she would be up half the night, it was crazy. She’s 4.5 now and let me tell you girlfriend still could use a nap because she can get so whiny but I just can’t get it to happen! My youngest seems to be trying to fight the nap too and I’m not ready for that!
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  • Man…I just found your blog and it couldn’t have come at a better time! My little guy (7 months) slept amazing until 4 months (immunizations) and since then I can’t seem to get control again and he’s been up anywhere from 2-7x a night (after fighting with him for an hour to go to sleep and then up by 6ish in the morning). He also used to go down like a charm for naps…and now it’s a bit of a fight every time. Sometimes I struggle between the feeling of trying to decide what else I should try/how long I should let him cry, etc. And the next minute all I want to do is snuggle him and do whatever he needs. My 2 year old also has been coming out of her room several times before she will eventually go to sleep. We decided to try cutting her afternoon nap short (which is SO hard for me to wake her up), and it’s helped a bit,but she’s just not always tired come bed time. And, we also used something called Tired Teddies (we cut them in 4ths) to help her settle down for a nap, because she as well is a total bear if she misses a nap, but spends forever monkeying around and then eventually never taking a nap without a Teddy. So, I totally hear you on all of this and it’s actually quite nice knowing I’m not alone, especially when some of my friends have children who sleep like a charm. I look forward to continuing to follow your blog! Thank you for the sweet encouragement!!

  • Yes, naptimes can be the bane of a mother’s existence. Our first, a boy, was horrendous til around 3 months when the strict routine we had put him on finally kicked in. We did lots of sleep training with him. I thought he was hard, and then we had our daughter 😉 She just did.not.sleep during the day. I tried everything. And she didn’t sleep long periods over night either. In fact, at 2 1/2 she started sleeping all night consistently (she’s three in a week or two). I found that she was very sensitive to her body so, if she was unwell, going through a growth spurt, or something else, she would just be awake. And that was it for a few hours. I was a zombie, with no good stretches of peace during the day. Oh, and our two were 16-months a part so it was super crazy. I feel with our son being 4 and our daughter almost 3, things are *slightly* easier. More sleep, but more behaviour stuff. Ah. Motherhood!

    PS: Thank you for leaving such a lovely comment on my blog xx

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